Mastering Burnout Recovery with Chris Salem (Part 2)

Burnout isn’t the end of the road it’s the beginning of your breakthrough. Join us as world-renowned speaker and emotional intelligence expert Christopher Salem reveals the blueprint to turn burnout into brilliance. Learn how to conquer exhaustion, rebuild with purpose, and create a legacy that inspires others.

This episode is packed with actionable insights to help leaders embrace their flaws, unlock their strengths, and thrive in personal and professional life. From the art of clear communication to the profound connection between spirituality and resilience, Christopher provides a roadmap to success through self-discovery and intentional living.

💡 Here’s What You’ll Take Away:

• Transform your inner critic into your greatest ally
• Master assertive communication to strengthen leadership and relationships
• Build emotional intelligence as the foundation for success
• Shift from expectations to intentionality for a stress-free mindset
• Harness spirituality to enrich emotional health and daily fulfillment
• Embrace the power of interdependence to empower your teams
• Learn to turn challenges into opportunities for lasting impact

Chapters

• 0:02 Building Leadership Brilliance Through Communication
• 8:23 Embracing Spirituality and Self-Improvement
• 13:34 Overcoming Burnout for Leadership Brilliance

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to part two of Rise From the Ashes. I'm here with Burnout to Brilliance, with Christopher Salem. In the first episode, we spoke about the roots of the burnouts. Now let's talk about the path forward. How do great leaders not just recover from burnout, addiction and many other things, but how do they actually build the brilliance? Remember, burnout isn't just a sign of weakness, it's a call to rise, join a movement, be courageous for one day transforming their lives in your leadership, and it's about you and your messages. So so subscribe today. Remember you're not alone. Everybody in the world has a rise from the ashes story. What's yours, chris? Tactical questions and tactical strategic strategies. How do you employ tactical strategies for your clients and how do you not necessarily micromanage them, but how do you manage them?

Speaker 2: 1:13

or guide them to that next level? A great question For me. What we have to do is we have to make sure the communication is very specific, clear and concise. Now I can't control what they're going to do with their communication, how they perceive what I said, or that they're going to volunteer and give me information. A lot of the issues with communication are based on assumption and speculation. So I got to be proactive as the sender, the receiver, to ask questions that get information that we're going to be able to really start off on the right foot, on the same page, to move them forward, and that what that starts with is that we got to recognize and be transparent. Where are they? Where do they want to go? What is the challenge that they have? Or challenges, and not to see it as a negative, but a positive. What can we do now? To now work with this challenge to make it better, but if we're not really clear on what that is, then how are we going to move through the process to now take the challenge and turn it into an opportunity? Otherwise, we're just going to be reacting to life and business and all the distractions and it's not going to be moving us forward on that.

Speaker 2: 2:19

And then what I do is I work with them on a further building out that emotional intelligence foundation and how they can think differently when they're going through this process. So we start working on what can they control, what can they not control? Now, there are many things that we could control. There are many things we can't control, but there are five main areas that we can control and not control each and every day. The five things that we could control each and every day are our communication to ourself and other people. So how can we learn to shift away from the inner critic so we can start listening to our inner champion? But if you just say I'm going to do that, it won't work that way. You have to develop a routine, things that you've never done to start thinking differently of how you can start operating and listening to your inner champion.

Speaker 2: 3:11

Because if you can't effectively communicate to yourself, how are you going to effectively, in a healthy way, communicate to other people? Because even though you might be talking negative to yourself and thinking that you're still talking in a positive way to other people, you're fooling yourself, because most people who communicate are passive and or aggressive communicators. Passive communicators tend to say yes to a lot of things. They will do anything that you ask them to do because they're seeking your validation. You're not really helping them. You're just helping them to stay stuck independent on you and oftentimes, because you take on too much than you can chew, things fall through the cracks and now they're not happy with you and now you're not happy with them because they felt like you've taken on too much of their stuff and not able to get to your own Aggressive people.

Speaker 2: 3:59

Communicators tend to be people who are perfectionists, meaning that they have a hard time delegating, and if they're forced to delegate they tend to micromanage people. They can be condescending or talk down to people. But if we can start now to be more assertive with ourselves, where we can now talk to ourselves in a healthy, constructive way, recognizing what we're good at, what we're not good at, and knowing how we can leverage our strengths, offset our weaknesses with resources and others to the best of our ability we are all flawsome Doesn't mean that we're great at everything, but we can embrace our flaws. That's why I use the word flawsome. When we can communicate better to ourselves, we're more likely to be assertive with other people. So we know we can't control other people. So we're the sender, the receiver. We're going to be tasked to ask more questions to get more clarity. So that way nothing is likely to fall through the cracks like the other way around.

Speaker 2: 4:58

I get very clear on that. People could control their communication. Their behavior is the same way. It's an assertive with their communication versus passive or aggressive their attitude. We want to make sure people can see everything that's happening right now, even though it's not where they want to be. It's happening for them Because without you being here we can't get to where you want to go without understanding where you're at and using those challenges now to turn into an opportunity Our emotions. We can control that. We learn to respond versus react to situations and other people. So even though I might be angry right now, it doesn't mean I have to react from it. I can now pause, deal with my anger on my own time. Maybe I have to sleep on it before I send that email or talk to somebody or address something. I can control that responding over and then actions.

Speaker 2: 5:50

A lot of people are busy but they're not productive. That's just another form of procrastination. I know that if I'm going to be productive, I got to focus on the puzzle pieces I have in my control. I can't be worried about the pieces I don't. So I got to focus only on what I can control and then break it down into systems, activities and processes and prioritize it correctly in order to carry out and trust the process of what I can control and what I can't. When it does come into my control, it will lead me to the results.

Speaker 2: 6:21

So I have to shift away from expectations to outcomes. That's past and future thinking to now operating from intentions in the moment and allowing my intentions and then what I can't control to trust the process that when more comes into my control over time it will lead to those results. So when I now look at getting results from my clients, I want them to be operating from intentions, not expectations Intentions in the moment, trusting the process to the results, versus being tied to the outcome, now getting lost in the process and now your mind being overwhelmed, frustrated, stressed anxiety because you're not in the moment. So what I work on them, working on that control, what they can control, with themselves as the foundation and learning to let go of the same five things and other people and situations and then, as they do that. We can now take those actions and break things down into priorities, using systems and processes to execute, using, maybe, smart goals specific, measurable, attainable, achievable, relevant and timely that we can achieve what they're looking to do.

Speaker 2: 7:36

I give you a macro level of that, but there's many more things in there. But that's like how I go about when I work with individuals and companies. We start with that foundation. It's just like a house Everyone wants a beautiful home, everyone wants to put beautiful things in it and everyone wants to entertain in it, but they don't take time to think about the foundation or cultivate. A home can't sustain itself and last a long time without it being on a sturdy, rock solid foundation. You got to nurture that foundation daily, if anything above and beyond that is going to work and be sustainable over time yeah, I completely agree with that.

Speaker 1: 8:13

Thank you for sharing that. That was a good macro view and very informative actually for someone who's looking to work with someone like you. This is why I like to ask that question. You mentioned spirituality earlier on. Now, spirituality isn't woo. It actually is a foundation for emotional health and our energy in our daily life and also going forward. How does it connect into something greater in your family and values now, how did it get you? Obviously, you went through that whole journey, but now it's a foundation for what you do. It connect into something greater in your family and values. Now. How did it get you? Obviously, you went through that whole journey, but now it's a foundation for what you do in in daily life. How does that gel? How does that bind and become part of you, who you are, and also your values and family?

Speaker 2: 8:57

Good question Again. It's accumulation of all these things. I look at life and business as a puzzle. If I have a hundred piece puzzle, if I'm caught up in getting the puzzle done in my head now, I'm going to get caught, I'm going to get lost in feeling overwhelmed, stressed. My mind's not in the moment. If I only have 12 pieces right now. That's what I'm working with. I'm not worried about what's going to happen tomorrow. I can't worry about what happened last week or the week before I got to work in what I can control, those five things that I control. So when I can now approach things like that, I can now trust the process that whatever's going on in my relationships, personally, professionally, in my family, with my clients, everything will work out and when something doesn't okay, that's just part of the process. Okay.

Speaker 2: 9:47

So sometimes we have to lose things in order to gain things, and a lot of times we don't like losing things. We like gaining things, but we don't like to lose things, and a lot of times. But sometimes that's part of life. We got to sometimes make room for bigger and better things. So those are the things that I strive to do each and every day in my personal and professional life and what I use analogies and examples and activities to get into people's heads so that they can start to understand that and embrace that and not resist it, to start moving forward through their challenges to turn into opportunities and then results. That's, in essence, what I do I love that.

Speaker 1: 10:27

Thank you for sharing that sure is there anything else you'd like to share with the audience? Whether it be a call to action, go to your website.

Speaker 2: 10:34

Here's a book, whatever it is yeah, I would just encourage you, if you like, to check out, uh, my sustainablesuccessnet that everything we shared applies to that from a business perspective. And accelerating sales, revenue and profit to increase business valuation. Bringing your team to ignite them to engage at a higher level, creating customer experiences. I apply all of these things and how we can make that better. And then my ChristopherSalemcom website is my speaker site, but we're on the personal side, so it talks a little bit more about what we discussed today, more on a personal level, because that's where it's got to start. And then what I would just leave with Paz is, first of all, thanking you for the opportunity to share this on your platform. I always like to leave people with this statement and not only hear it, but apply it every day Give without expectation, receive without resistance.

Speaker 2: 11:26

So what does that mean? You're not giving without expectation to enable and please people. That doesn't help them. You're giving without expectation from empathy and kindness. So what that means is that you're inspiring people through your actions, your emotions, your attitude, your behavior and your communication. Being the example of that and being resourceful will be better than just doing for them. You're encouraging them to do for themselves so they're less dependent on you, they can do for yourself. Interdependent relationships work much better than codependent relationships. So give without expectations, all about doing it from empathy and kindness, being the example, being a resource, not just doing for them. Now, when it comes back from somewhere else doesn't mean comes back from that person you gave to, but it comes back from if it serves you In a good way, professionally, personally.

Speaker 2: 12:31

Don't resist it. Receive it without resistance because it fills your cup. We can't truly give anything of value unless we fill our cups. That's why the oxygen mask theory. When they say, when it comes down, you got to put it, the mother's got to put it on herself before she puts it on her child, Most people would think, oh, you got to put it on your child before you put it on yourself. You can't give what you don't have and think that you're really helping people or situations. So you've got to fill your cup to spill on to others.

Speaker 2: 12:54

Give without expectation, receive without resistance. Repeat the process. You truly apply that every day in your life and remind yourself and do it. I can tell you you will see a huge, significant shift in your life in terms of wealth. Business. Does that mean everything goes right. No, Matter of fact, you'll probably have even more challenges and setbacks than you had before, but yet you embrace it, knowing it's going to shape you up for bigger and better things. And you're not attached to the outcome. You are committed to the process. The results are just a byproduct of it. That's what I want to believe.

Speaker 1: 13:34

Chris, that's great advice for anybody listening to this. Someone once told me enjoy the journey, because when you're at the top of a mountain, someone's always willing to knock you off it.

Speaker 1: 13:42

Yeah, exactly um, my, my friends, my guests. Thank you very much. The listeners. Burnout isn't just stealing your energy, it's stealing your brilliance, your purpose and also your legacy. Leadership isn't too is too important to let burnout win. Subscribe, share the message and join the movement of leaders, transforming burnout into brilliance, purpose and generational impact. Your legacy, your journey, starts anew today. Chris, thank you very much. It's been a pleasure. I will see you very shortly. I know you've got to show off because you've got a million things to go on to. I will let you know as soon as this is done for my guests. Thank you very much for my people's subscribers and the listeners. Please share the message and change someone's life. Talk to you very soon.