Rise From The Ashes

Vibrations of Impact: The Entrepreneur's Road to Resilience with Raeanne Lacatena

May 27, 2024 Baz Porter® Season 4 Episode 9
Vibrations of Impact: The Entrepreneur's Road to Resilience with Raeanne Lacatena
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Vibrations of Impact: The Entrepreneur's Road to Resilience with Raeanne Lacatena
May 27, 2024 Season 4 Episode 9
Baz Porter®

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Every journey carries the potential for profound transformation, and Raeanne Lacatena's story is no exception. As a holistic business coach and former mental health therapist in pediatric palliative care, Rae-Ann embodies the resilience required to turn deep empathy and personal challenges into a blueprint for balancing personal growth with professional success. Through her experiences, she teaches us the value of understanding and harnessing our unique gifts, like empathy, and the power of balancing feminine and masculine energies in business.

In a world where emotions can be overwhelming, especially for empaths, Raeanne opens up about her strategies for maintaining energy balance. She delves into her path to becoming a Reiki master and how it shaped her approach to life and coaching. Raeanne's new book, "The Integrated Entrepreneur," stands as a beacon for those looking to make their mark on the world, blending self-transformation with meaningful entrepreneurship. This episode is an exploration of the ripple effects our personal evolution can have, inspiring authenticity and purposeful living as antidotes to negativity.

Our conversation takes an intimate turn as Raeanne reflects on the notions of legacy and impact, weaving personal tales of trauma, the healing power of music, and how our darkest times can be the catalyst for creativity and growth. You'll hear her perspective on how our life stories, including the trials we face, contribute to leaving a lasting imprint on the world. By embracing our full emotional spectrum and turning our experiences into a force for good, Raeanne illustrates the tapestry of life that we each have the power to weave.

Colorado’s best business coach, Baz Porter, has a new mindset strategy mentoring service to help you unlock new heights of growth, prosperity, happiness, and success. Book your first meeting with the coaching visionary at https://www.ramsbybaz.com/

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Friends, our time together is coming to a close. Before we part ways, I sincerely thank you for joining me on this thought-provoking journey. I aim to provide perspectives and insights that spark self-reflection and positive change.

If any concepts we explored resonated with you, I kindly request that you share this episode with someone who may benefit from its message. And please, reach out anytime - I’m always eager to hear your biggest aspirations, pressing struggles, and lessons learned.

My door is open at my Denver office and digitally via my website. If you want to go deeper and transform confusion into clarity on your quest for purpose, visit http://www.ramsbybaz.com and schedule a coaching session.

This is Baz Porter signing off with immense gratitude. Stay bold, stay faithful, and know that you always have an empathetic ear and wise mind in your corner. Until next time!

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Every journey carries the potential for profound transformation, and Raeanne Lacatena's story is no exception. As a holistic business coach and former mental health therapist in pediatric palliative care, Rae-Ann embodies the resilience required to turn deep empathy and personal challenges into a blueprint for balancing personal growth with professional success. Through her experiences, she teaches us the value of understanding and harnessing our unique gifts, like empathy, and the power of balancing feminine and masculine energies in business.

In a world where emotions can be overwhelming, especially for empaths, Raeanne opens up about her strategies for maintaining energy balance. She delves into her path to becoming a Reiki master and how it shaped her approach to life and coaching. Raeanne's new book, "The Integrated Entrepreneur," stands as a beacon for those looking to make their mark on the world, blending self-transformation with meaningful entrepreneurship. This episode is an exploration of the ripple effects our personal evolution can have, inspiring authenticity and purposeful living as antidotes to negativity.

Our conversation takes an intimate turn as Raeanne reflects on the notions of legacy and impact, weaving personal tales of trauma, the healing power of music, and how our darkest times can be the catalyst for creativity and growth. You'll hear her perspective on how our life stories, including the trials we face, contribute to leaving a lasting imprint on the world. By embracing our full emotional spectrum and turning our experiences into a force for good, Raeanne illustrates the tapestry of life that we each have the power to weave.

Colorado’s best business coach, Baz Porter, has a new mindset strategy mentoring service to help you unlock new heights of growth, prosperity, happiness, and success. Book your first meeting with the coaching visionary at https://www.ramsbybaz.com/

Support the Show.

Friends, our time together is coming to a close. Before we part ways, I sincerely thank you for joining me on this thought-provoking journey. I aim to provide perspectives and insights that spark self-reflection and positive change.

If any concepts we explored resonated with you, I kindly request that you share this episode with someone who may benefit from its message. And please, reach out anytime - I’m always eager to hear your biggest aspirations, pressing struggles, and lessons learned.

My door is open at my Denver office and digitally via my website. If you want to go deeper and transform confusion into clarity on your quest for purpose, visit http://www.ramsbybaz.com and schedule a coaching session.

This is Baz Porter signing off with immense gratitude. Stay bold, stay faithful, and know that you always have an empathetic ear and wise mind in your corner. Until next time!

Baz Porter:

Good morning evening, wherever you're from. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to another episode of Rise from the Ashes. I'm your host, baz Porter, and as always, it's another exciting episode with an esteemed entrepreneur who has got a profound story and a very way of changing people's lives. She's a coach, she is a author and a soon-to-be author, with her book pending release in the spring of this year, in April, sometime in April. Look out, because it's going to be huge. So this is an exclusive for that book. So if you're looking at me going, what the hell you want about? It is called. I'm gonna Raeanne Raeanne introduce it and herself, as always, intrigued entrepreneur, please say hello to the world and all our listeners.

Raeanne Lacatena:

Hi everybody. Thank you, boz, so much for having me here today. My name is Raeann e Lacatina and the book is called the Integrated Entrepreneur, Scheduled to come out in April. As Boz said, I am a holistic business coach and a mother of three beautiful children, and my mission in the world is to help people be the greatest expression of who they choose to be by making a greater impact and fulfilling their purpose.

Baz Porter:

You've come through a hell of a journey, coming to where you are for many different reasons. Can you share with the audience a transformation that really started and catalyzed, was the catalyst for your career?

Raeanne Lacatena:

Yeah, absolutely, and I love that question. I love the theme of the podcast too. For that very reason it's so important to the work that I talk about, because I really do believe that those pivotal moments that happen in our lives, but also the progression, the things that we look back and we say, ah, now I know why that happened for me. Sometimes it feels in the moment like it's happening to me, but really we learn that it's a part of our evolution and a part of our growth to go through these changes and shifts and times in our life that sometimes are challenging and sometimes are enlightening, and sometimes both, usually both. So I actually started my career as a mental health therapist. I always knew that I wanted to be a helper, ever since I was a little girl, and I followed that path and really focused on wanting to help people. I actually thought that I was going to be a music therapist when I went to school and I thought that I was going to be working with children and that's really what I pursued early on.

Raeanne Lacatena:

And I began my career in pediatric palliative care and so I learned very early, in my early 20s, some of the most difficult conversations, some of the most difficult topics and experiences. I witnessed some of the most challenging things as other families were walking their children through life limiting illnesses, life threatening illnesses, sometimes to their cure hopefully to their cure and sometimes to their death. And so in my early 20s, I learned so much about life. I learned the why God questions, I learned politics, I learned money, I learned collaboration, coordination. I learned about how not to walk someone through grief, how to walk someone through grief, what does it mean to lose a great love, what does it mean to have an untimely loss, and also so many amazing lessons about myself. These beautiful little children were my early spiritual teachers in my life and in my business, and they showed me some of my unique gifts as a human being, as a practitioner, as a counselor and eventually as a coach. One of the things that they taught me and that I learned is that I'm an empath, and so that in that circumstance, being in pediatric palliative care, there's so much going on that is such heavy feeling, and I was watching and witnessing this cohort of caretakers around me doctors, oncologists, nurses, social workers, music therapists and some of them were able to handle things a little bit better than I was able to early in my career I was noticing myself feeling very exhausted. I was noticing myself feeling deep feelings during these experiences and eventually witnessing myself sometimes take it on personally, take it on emotionally.

Raeanne Lacatena:

I eventually learned that I'm an empath, so I feel things more acutely than other people. But I can also see things more clearly than other people as a part of my gift as well, and so I saw these two parts of myself, which I've come to call the feminine and masculine, right, I see the feminine, the nurturer. I have that empathic natural nature that I can feel into what the experience is. I can meet people where they are. Then I can also see the way to get things done and get it done efficiently and effectively, and that's become my career. That's why the book is called the Integrated Entrepreneur, because there are two sides of us, this feminine and masculine. In business it's the internal and the external, and bringing those two pieces together is my gift and offering to the business owners that I serve and in the moment I needed to learn that about myself and again, these children and these families really helped me to learn that as quickly as possible.

Raeanne Lacatena:

There were moments, baz, where I was in a gully. What does it all mean kind of moments crying and wondering how could it be possible that these beautiful children are, their lives are ending early, they've done nothing, they don't deserve this. So many different questions going through my mind and what I've seen in my experience, now that I've had two decades in personal development, is that the people who, as you call it, rise from the ashes when they've been brushed up against these very challenging experiences in their life. It gives them this unique perspective on life that gives them this urgency. It gives them this clarity that one tomorrow is not guaranteed, that every single moment is literally a gift, because you could turn left or right and your life could go completely differently than you would have hoped, and one moment can absolutely change it all.

Raeanne Lacatena:

I was seeing that happen every single day in the lives of the families that I serve, and so I, in the parallel process of witnessing them, I didn't go through what they went through I'm not saying that I had their pain by any stretch of the imagination and witnessing their experience of it and having my own professional experience of it showed me that when someone goes through those challenging types of experiences, they can then appreciate life more, and when they lose that great love, or they have that very difficult rock bottom moment.

Raeanne Lacatena:

They learn to begin to appreciate the day, appreciate their gifts and live their life to the fullest. Because they get to and not everybody does, and so I'm really grateful that I had those experiences every single day, and now I bring that into the business coaching work that I do. I work with people who insist with urgency on fulfilling their purpose, insist with urgency on living their life to the fullest and treating each day as a gift, but also coming from a place of love and knowing that hard things can happen, but we get to be here still, and so how do we make the most of it? That's why I'm here.

Baz Porter:

You mentioned being discovering you're an empath, and the masculine and feminine from that. Yeah, how did you? Because a lot of people say I feel everything, I go through other people's experiences. How did you manage doing what lot of people say I feel everything, I go through other people's experiences. How did you manage doing what you were doing then, even today, and knowing you feel and experience these feelings from other people? How did you balance that in your life? You can't tell.

Raeanne Lacatena:

It's a fantastic question. Early on in my childhood I always knew there was something going on. I could feel things, that I would feel things more acutely than other people, but I had no idea what was going on. I did not have a teacher, or my parents didn't know that this was really what was going on for me either. There wasn't really a language for empathy in this way. It's different than empathy. An empath is really what it is, and early.

Raeanne Lacatena:

What happens in this experience and this is my experience and I've seen it happen over and over again in some of the other empaths that I've served, because they tend to come to me because they're like oh, she gets it is that you begin to learn to stifle those emotions. You find different ways to shut it down, because it's painful sometimes, boss, it is to feel the world's feelings, to feel other people's grief, to feel what's going on in the world, to have people approach you and constantly tell you their life story or spew their darkness onto you or try to plug into your energy source. This has been my experience my entire life, and it continues to be. But I didn't know what was happening and I didn't know how to manage it. And so the early phases this often happens is that people learn, begin to dull it down. Some people choose drugs, alcohol, sex drugs, rock and roll, all the things to try to like tune it out.

Raeanne Lacatena:

For me, my version of tuning it out was focusing on high achieving. This perfectionist straight, a high achiever, follow the yellow brick road from high school top of the class, college, top of the class, ivy League masters. I was just keeping my head down and working harder and tuning out, trying to focus on achievement, which was exhausting and working way too hard and grinding and forcing and pushing, and that's really the. That became the detriment of my own energy. I closing it off was really like stop stopping the listening, not letting my intuitive self pay attention, but these little beautiful babies and kids. They tapped me back into it. Whoa, why am I feeling all of this?

Raeanne Lacatena:

And then I had to learn how to steward the empath within me instead of shut it down. And it's still a work in progress. It certainly is still a work in progress, but once I got the language around what was happening for me and I understood it better, then you can learn how to protect your energy. You can learn how to set boundaries in your environment, but also in your relationships, in your business, in your experience of life, that help you to keep yourself separate from others, and one of the gifts that I gave myself is that I became a Reiki master, initially for the explicit purpose of learning how to manage my energy. It was like a self-preservation step that I took for myself and I since, now that I understand it and I'm learning it, I am a Reiki master, but I consider myself a novice. To be able to learn how to allocate my energy differently in service to other people, that's really been amazing to witness and to be a part of, and so it's really energy management is the short answer to your question.

Baz Porter:

So, when you talk about energy management, the book that is coming out now, the entrepreneur book, the integrated integrated spring, my memories go sharp.

Raeanne Lacatena:

That's why I'm here.

Baz Porter:

The integrated entrepreneur. How did this book come about? How did you even get the inspiration for this book?

Raeanne Lacatena:

Yeah, that's a good question. So I my it's been happening. That's another one of those things that, like, would keep coming into my consciousness. People would be asking me you got to write a book. When are you going to write a book? You have so much to talk about. There's so much. There's so many stories that you have in your life, but also so much wisdom that you have already generated in your career. You should write a book. You should write a book. I'd have mentors tell me this, clients tell me this, peers tell me this.

Raeanne Lacatena:

So it really was an external message. First, to be honest with you, it wasn't some people that I work, because I work with a lot of authors myself in my coaching practice. Some people have this experience where there's a calling, they hear I must write a book, this is a path that I must take. It's something that they enjoy doing. That's not my story. My story is that other people were telling me to write this book and eventually I was like all right, I listened to the call and enough poking and prodding, and that decision was made. Actually, today on, as we're recording, it's March 6. And on March 8, it was International Women's Day.

Raeanne Lacatena:

Last year, one of my friends and colleagues said you need to do this, and so I started writing and sent him a message and was like, okay, I started writing this book. So it's been a year in the making. Now, really, ultimately, my entire career is pulled into that book. So there's pieces around energy, there's pieces around mental health, there's my own story, client story. It's really coming together.

Raeanne Lacatena:

So eventually, when I got into the groove of writing over this last year, it's been incredibly transformative, and now I understand why others were asking me to write a book. They saw in me more clearly than I could see in myself, right, sometimes we can't read the label from inside the bottle, and so it's been. The book is about self-transcendence, which is this idea that I know, maybe for the listeners to be able to first actualize your own potential and continue to grow and to continue to evolve. But then, when we self-transcend, we continue to hold that highest expression of ourselves, but then we let go of the self version of it and we lean into how can we create a ripple effect in the world, how can we change other people's lives with our gifts, and so that's really what the book is in some ways about how do we actualize our potential, through our business, through our purpose, through our experience? And the short answer is yes. It's been a year since I wrote this book and it's also been an entire life's work.

Baz Porter:

Two things with that. One a year isn't a long time to actually write a book. I've known people who have written books and they've taken 15 years and further some of them. So to accomplish what you've accomplished and put your experience into one place, in a, in a book, in this it's not just a book. It's something that is going to be read 50, 60, 70 years ahead. So don't just think about now. Think about the long-term impact for these things.

Raeanne Lacatena:

Oh, yes, yeah, absolutely.

Baz Porter:

When you look at your experience and you've integrated it into the company building. You've built what you've built and it's always expanding. Now you're an author. What next? And what makes your company unique for your clientele, so it empowers them to leave that legacy for your kids, for your grandchildren, because ultimately, that's what it's going to be.

Raeanne Lacatena:

There's so many different ways to answer that question. So, like from a larger global perspective, if we're going to like the big, huge mission that sometimes is behind the scenes for me that I'm working on being more open about, is that I really believe that if more people can be authentically themselves and fulfill their purpose from a higher place, then the planet will heal, that we can move our world in a more positive direction, that we can have more love in the world, and that vibration of love will uplift the world and some of the hate and terrible things that are happening in the world will be stifled or at least and I do that every day stifled or at least, and I do that every day. I, the this fire that is is in me, comes from having been a mother of three little babies. I I see the urgency now more clearly, having my own children and knowing that I not only have written a book and that's going to be a legacy. Of course, my children are my greatest legacy and their grandchildren, as you said, my grandchildren and their grandchildren.

Raeanne Lacatena:

I want there to be a planet for them to enjoy and I would prefer to leave the world better than I've found it now, and it's not looking pretty, and so really helping people to step out of fear and to step into their full potential is my gift to that endeavor, and the writing the book is, in part, a way to reach more people in the process of doing that, because I really believe that there's a responsibility of all of us who are working towards a positive impact to get that message out to as many people. I know not everyone is gonna resonate with me in the way that I teach some of the things that I teach, and hopefully there are somebody else that wakes them up to their fullness, to their wholeness, and allows them to make more good in the world, so that we can experience that together. So that's like the larger mission.

Baz Porter:

Because you went from macro into the micro.

Raeanne Lacatena:

Yeah, and the micro is just like I mentioned, so the book itself has been transformative From a business perspective.

Raeanne Lacatena:

I often talk about how sometimes our ideal client is like five or six years behind us, and so, as I continue to transcend, part of the reason that I wrote this book from a business perspective is that my clients are becoming authors and breaking through next echelons.

Raeanne Lacatena:

They're writing bestselling books, they're getting Netflix shows and made massive deals in Hollywood. They're doing amazing, incredible things, and so if I'm going to lead them, I need to continue to grow and get to continue to grow as well, and opening this part of my growth up is opening up more amazing people to come into my world who also want to be difference makers and change makers, and so I'm leading from the front, even if I'm slightly ahead of some of them, or maybe even a little behind. Being able to reach this kind of person, who is committed, who is motivated, who does have urgency, who understands the value of life but also wants to make the world a better place, I'm hopeful that it brings in more of those people into my sphere so that we can work together on this large mission that I have. So that's that.

Baz Porter:

That's a very good, thorough answer. One of the reasons I like asking these obscure questions is because I want you to shine with this. I want your message to come out, that is authentic to you.

Baz Porter:

It isn't scripted. For those people listening to this now going, oh, this is scripted, this isn't scripted, this is just people having a conversation and this is what I find very important. And people forget. People don't know the person behind this, the person behind who they see. They see the person in front of us now, but they don't see the struggles, they don't see the pain, they don't see the self-doubt or anything else that every single entrepreneur goes through. Entrepreneurs will and I fully believe this will change the face of the earth. You will change the face of the earth and it's with what you said earlier making the small, intentional conversations happen. Someone once told me many years ago the world as we know it is a direct correlation between the vibration that we are and the vibration is external with us. Everything's in perfect balance according to a single vibration and the only way to change that is, as you said, changing our internal world yeah which has an excellent impact.

Baz Porter:

When we look at resilience and the stories of resilience, what changed for you in one of the most impactful experiences in your life that actually built that resilience that enabled you to do that job, to go that extra mile? For not just for yourself, your kids, for your clients. What makes you, as a person, unique?

Raeanne Lacatena:

Yeah, so I know we've spoken in the past, boz, but we have not spoken about this. I know that you were curious the listeners can't see, but there's a guitar behind me. I did the day you told me I had to play it. I played it. I made a promise and I kept it, and I one of the stories that I actually opened up the book with is one of those moments that really you're talking about, and so I'll tell that story briefly now, and hopefully it'll create some connection for people.

Raeanne Lacatena:

So in high school, I was a singer, a musician. I played a number of different instruments, I was leads and I took solos and a lot of the different plays. I was in lots of choirs. Music was one of my greatest passions when I was in high school and I became known for that, so much so that in high school, for senior day, the day that we graduated in high school, the class asked me to sing the senior song and send us off into our next phase of our life, and I was very greatly honored for that, prepared for this experience, had a choir behind me. I get up to sing the song and nothing came out in front of thousands of people on graduation day, and it was up until this point, even though I had a very challenging childhood. This was the worst day of my life. It was supposed to be the best day of my life and I graduated third in my class. I was just barely valedictorian, salutatorian. I was right up there. I was moving on to be a music therapist, go to conservatory. I had accepted an offer to be a music therapist in a school and all of a sudden, my voice was gone. Nothing came out, and that experience changed the trajectory of my life drastically.

Raeanne Lacatena:

When I went to college, I started to back away from music because I was afraid it was going to happen again and I didn't understand why it happened. I started to distance myself further and further from music in a lot of different ways self-sabotage. There was tons of ways that I moved away from this thing. That was my greatest love, and I began seeing it affect other areas as I moved into my professional career or even in school. Still, it affected my public speaking abilities. I started to notice not wanting to get in front of crowds, and so, eventually, by the time I got to my master's program, music was completely absent from my life. Completely absent from my life and I decided to move away from music therapy, elected a more straight clinical or therapy track where I was focusing only on that therapy side of things and no longer the music side of things. And so my career changed, my goals changed my ability to be.

Raeanne Lacatena:

I'm an introverted person, but I knew how to perform in front of people openly, on a regular basis. And now, all of a sudden, I was like crawling into my introverted person. But I knew how to perform in front of people openly, on a regular basis. And now, all of a sudden, I was like crawling into my introverted shell and no longer performing in front of people. So this experience I didn't know at the time that I was going through this like moving away phenomenon I was just living my life as a teenager and college student. But as I looked back and I saw how this was impacting me because my career has grown I'm a business coach, I get invited on speaking engagements, I'm here with you now I knew that I needed to do something about this because it was limiting my ability to grow, and so I really did.

Raeanne Lacatena:

So much of the work that I offer in the Integrated Entrepreneur and the work that I do with my clients is integrating these three time zones. There's the past, the present and the future. Something may have interrupted your higher self in the past. That needs to be addressed, that needs to be stewarded. Sometimes it's about reparenting If we're talking early, early child stuff and taking care of whatever happened to you at that moment. Sometimes it's trauma work.

Raeanne Lacatena:

For me. I needed to do EMDR, eye movement, desensitization and reprocessing. I needed to move through in very big ways, finding my voice. I needed to open the channel again and there were compounding traumas that happened to me. After that voice was lost, I needed to do a lot of work to get my voice back, to get my confidence back, and it still impacts me now and again. Right, I still sometimes go into my shell and I still have not fully found my way back to music. I'm playing with it, obviously, and finding ways to integrate it into my life. But this moment, this experience of having that trauma and seeing how it impacted me, and then circling back to now, I now know that the creator in me, the creative in me, that's what the musician was. It was never about becoming a famous singer. It was that I have this blend of masculine and feminine and that creator was being dulled in this process of losing my voice. And so now business ownership and entrepreneurship has become my symphony, and I see the harmony in the human being, I see the beautiful bringing together of all the instruments of their life, all the different voices of their life coming together in this very creative process of business ownership. And so I'm able to use that creative part of me in supporting people building, growing and leveling up their business on a daily basis.

Raeanne Lacatena:

And yes, time to time clients will get a well-placed verse from me. I'll bust in song when things go really well or I'll send them a birthday message. And there are other ways that I'm playing with song Personally with my kiddos. They hear mom sing all the time I use, for example, I notice I'm happiest when I am singing and sometimes I'll reverse, engineer that and sing so that I'm happiest. So there's ways that I'm bringing it back into my life and letting it calm my central nervous system and teach my body. Even though that thing happened to me and even though it wasn't very good, even though it wasn't the worst trauma that I went through by any stretch of the imagination, it was a very bad day. It was a very bad experience and it changed my life massively for the better, now that I can, now that I can calm those parts of my body and my mind and my experience and integrate it into who I am now differently. Now I know why that thing happened for me and I'm grateful for it.

Baz Porter:

This is what happens when you start being real, because all you've said then is complete emotion. This is exactly why I love these conversations. My next question for you is when you play the guitar. This was coming. What was the experience? How did you feel?

Raeanne Lacatena:

So guitar was never my instrument of choice.

Raeanne Lacatena:

It's something that I'm learning and it's almost a way that I'm getting back to music, but one of the ways that that I love music is that vibration.

Raeanne Lacatena:

Right, I'm a Reiki master and so everything is energy. When I feel that empathic sense that we were talking about earlier, I feel vibration in my hands and my body and my experience, and that happens when you hold a guitar and what it does for me, what music really does for me, is it gets me in touch with the vibration that's always around us, anyway, in a very concrete way and a very sensory experience, and so you can feel the vibrations. And in that moment after our conversation last time time, baz, I was thinking about the fact that I hadn't picked up the guitar in a while and that I wanted to get back to it, and so I took a tutorial and let myself do a singing meditation and a guitar meditation, and so it felt like a coming home. That's what music is for me it's a coming home. It's that. It's the concrete representation of that vibration that exists in everything in life.

Baz Porter:

And so it's a very special piece to me. That's why I asked it, because it gives the listeners a piece of you and in an understanding or in a standing of not just who you are, but why you do this. It's not just about an instrument. It's about the vibration, it's about the meaning behind of it. An instrument is about the vibration. It's about the meaning behind of it. Yeah, I think that's important. It's important to remember that this isn't just a book. This isn't just a conversation. This is the beginning of another journey. When we look at building resilience, is there five or three to five things you would advise somebody listening to this going through that challenging time right now that there may not seem a way out? What would you tell that person?

Raeanne Lacatena:

Someone that's in it now.

Baz Porter:

Yeah.

Raeanne Lacatena:

Yeah, what I would start with is that if you are in it now, it's almost like an open wound right. So I've been able. It's been years since that experience happened to me, and in an exorbitant amount of work. And what I would say to that person who's going through something right now, it's not even necessarily about resilience in this moment. What we don't want to do is we don't want to push through real human emotions and real, raw human experiences while we're in them. Emotions and real, raw human experiences while we're in them. We want to feel them. We want to feel them fully. We want to get familiar with what is going on in our world and allow ourselves to go through those real human experiences.

Raeanne Lacatena:

When we're thinking about loss, for example, let's imagine that you did have a massive loss of a loved one. It's not wrong that you're feeling sad. It's not bad that you're feeling sad. It's not bad that you're feeling grief or that maybe you'd feel like you can't get out of bed. That's not even necessarily depression in the moment. Those are real human emotions that eventually you'll be able to see is based in love. That loss, that terrible feeling that you have in your body, is a real human experience that deserves airtime. Feeling into those feelings is a representation of that love that is no longer in its physical form. That's here for you, but also it makes love and happy and joy that comes down the line more beautiful.

Raeanne Lacatena:

If you feel the pain that you feel right now and feel it fully, too many people try to skip over it, ignore it, stuff it, compartmentalize it and it ends up popping up in other places in our life for much longer than necessary because we did not give ourself the space to feel Like. For example, when I came off the stage that day, everyone pretended like it didn't happen and just focused on the fact that I was top of my class and that I was going to college. Don't worry about it. We didn't notice anything Like. Some people still don't even realize that it happened.

Raeanne Lacatena:

I've spoken to high school friends and like what, what happened? Because it wasn't important enough to them. A and B, they just wanted me to focus on moving on and being great and high achieving. They were more comfortable with me being high achieving and so I didn't get to feel that terrible day ever. We went on literally to a celebration soon after and then there was a summer of graduation parties, and so I had to be forced to put a happy face on instead of feeling the raw feelings of that terrible experience that I was in, and, as a result of stuffing it, it ended up removing music from my life and like slowly backing away from it. It was one of my greatest joys for a decade, whereas if I had been able to feel that more fully, I could have moved through it in my body. It wouldn't have gotten stuck. It got stuck right here. That song got stuck right here for over a decade and silenced me.

Raeanne Lacatena:

But if you let it out, you feel it and, if necessary, depending on the severity of your situation, receive support through that process, then you'll be more likely to come out on the other side. Now there's lots of ways that you can also calm your central nervous system. We don't want to go off the rails with the feelings. There are ways that you can nurture yourself and calm your central nervous system during the process. We don't want to flip the coin in feeling those experiences to it becoming our new flavor of life, like our new whole experience of life, and so finding those ways for you as a human being and they're different for every single person, and it's one of my greatest joys is helping people find in this season of your life, in this physical form that you're in, what do you need to calm your central nervous system? What do you need to be able to feel and move through and process those emotions?

Raeanne Lacatena:

There's beautiful tools like the emotional freedom technique is one of my favorite, which is that tapping phenomenon. There's also havening, where we're sending calming signals throughout our body. There's tons and tons of ways, even exercise journaling. There's tons of ways that you can move through and process or clear those emotions and then anchor in a new story for yourself on the other side. But that work doesn't come until you feel clear and then anchor in the new story. So I have this new story about what music means to me now creatively engaging in business ownership, but that took a long time to get to. Don't rush the process, but also steward the process. Don't get stuck in the emotion. Find those things that allow you to move through the emotion too.

Baz Porter:

If you could put yourself now, in five years, in the emotion. Find those things that allow you to move through the emotion too. If you could put yourself now in five years in the future, you could create a global movement for your ideal people. These are your top 1% in the world that you want to work with. What would that movement be? What would it consist of?

Raeanne Lacatena:

That is the million dollar question, isn't it?

Raeanne Lacatena:

I know that my I'm working out the details of what that looks like in this current moment of my life because I've this book was my next thing, that's, and I'm moving through accomplishing it very soon.

Raeanne Lacatena:

So I don't have all the details of what the five-year plan looks like, but what I do know is that this is a global, like you said, it's international, it's global.

Raeanne Lacatena:

It's this unity experience where people are coming together all around the world and raising their hand and deciding that I do want to live on purpose. I do wanna live in mission, I do wanna make the world a better place, and so I imagine going around the world, traveling around the world with my family, but also with my clients, and meeting them in beautiful, different places around the world and finding ways to inspire that movement and inspire that connection to their purpose, whether that be in person time with my clients around the world, whether that be speaking engagements, whether that be. There's another book that's already 50% written as a result of writing this book, because I wrote so much that I have to put some of it in a second book. So there's lots of like little details that are coming together and I'm just getting curious and excited and enjoy enjoying the process of celebrating the present moment and getting curious about what's going to be next.

Baz Porter:

Where can people find it? Where can people come to see you? Where can they get hold of you if they want to book an appointment? Where can they download or get a copy of the book? What happens?

Raeanne Lacatena:

One thing that I'll say, Baz, I don't think we said yet, is that you and I are on a book together.

Baz Porter:

Together. Yes, we are.

Raeanne Lacatena:

We forgot to mention that, didn't? We? Bob and I, are co-authors in a book that was endorsed by Tony Robbins, jim Britt and we came together with 20 amazing co-authors to write this book in service to a lot of what we're talking about today. So if you want a book now, if you want the book now, you can find that on Amazon. It's called Cracking the Rich Code or if you'd want one of the copies that it has me on the cover, you can find that on my website at rayannlacatinacom. I'm also giving away my chapter as a free ebook on my website, so if you just want to look at that chapter, you're happy to reach it there.

Raeanne Lacatena:

I spend most of my time on LinkedIn. That's where I really spend most of my time on social media, and Instagram is really where I spend most of my time in the social digital world. If you're interested in learning how to work with me, you can find the details of a mastermind that I host for female entrepreneurs who are taking their business into that next level space. I also have a small group for female entrepreneurs who are beginning their process out, and I do work with both men and women in a one-to-one capacity as well. There's an online course too, so I have a whole customer journey, lots of different ways for people to reach me and find what works well for them where they are in their business.

Baz Porter:

I love that. Thank you very much, you're awesome. This will be going out a couple of days or a day before the Integral Entrepreneurs release, so if you are listening to this now, it's either on Amazon or it's just being released. In the next couple of days, click on the link pre-order it. Get a copy From myself. Thank you very much, you're awesome. Thank you very much for joining me and sharing your story with the love and integrity why you do. Is there anything else you'd like to share before we part ways and say goodbye today?

Raeanne Lacatena:

No, I'm just really grateful for you, boz. You've been so generous with your time and sharing this podcast in service to helping so many people. I'm really honored that you had me as a guest today, so I just wanted to say thank you to you.

Baz Porter:

Thank you. The one is mine, firstly. Secondly, to all the audience, thank you very much for tuning in, share the message, inspire somebody, change their life. For myself, have a blessed day, live life with purpose and inspire with legacy and, as always, be well.

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